Coaching conversations are important because when done well, they can be transformational<\/em> \u2014 both at an individual and organizational level.\u00a0In terms of interpersonal impact, a coaching conversation between 2 people can:<\/p>\n And when enough people are having them, coaching conversations can begin to impact entire organizations. As a critical mass is reached, with people at all levels holding candid conversations and coaching one another, something powerful begins to happen: it\u00a0instills a coaching culture<\/a>. Team relationships strengthen, employee engagement increases, and business performance improves, which can increase:<\/p>\n Coaching conversations aren\u2019t just for specialized or trained coaching professionals. In fact, nearly anyone can conduct a coaching conversation. Coaches can help anyone who is ready to identify problems and find solutions. And developing people \u2014 coaching others \u2014 is an important part of leadership. So, managers can coach people<\/a> by holding coaching conversations with colleagues or direct reports in the course of everyday work.<\/p>\n In fact, some of the most powerful coaching conversation experiences can happen in informal exchanges \u2014 in hallways, cafeterias, workspaces, virtual chats, and video calls. As coaching interactions occur across the entire organization, whether in-person or virtually, communication becomes more clear, honest, and effective, and together, all these better conversations start to create a better culture<\/a>\u00a0at the organization.<\/p>\n If you’re ready to try to hold a coaching conversation with someone, here are some things to know.<\/p>\n First, identify when there\u2019s an opportunity for a coaching conversation.<\/strong> Not all conversations lend themselves well to coaching. Make sure you know whether it\u2019s the right time. To recognize when someone is open to having a coaching conversation, pay attention to their cues. Listen for phrases like:<\/p>\n In these moments, you can turn a typical conversation into an opportunity for a coaching conversation.<\/p>\n At that point, remember these 3 guidelines to hold a coaching conversation:<\/p>\n Don\u2019t assume what the conversation is about or what path it should take. Truly listen, allowing space for others to think, reflect, and express themselves. Start with your active listening skillset,<\/a> but know that truly<\/em> listening goes beyond active listening, to listening to understand<\/em>.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Listening to understand focuses on the idea that there are multiple levels of information we must tune into during conversations. One level, of course, is the factual information being presented \u2014 most of us tend to pay attention primarily to that. But listening for the values behind the topic at hand and the emotions that people bring to an issue is an important part of a better conversation.<\/p>\n That\u2019s where we often find unstated objections, sensible reservations, and concealed barriers that might torpedo new initiatives. Stronger and more robust solutions to business challenges emerge when people are really listening to understand one another.<\/p>\n Coaching isn\u2019t about the quick fix or first solution. It\u2019s about uncovering answers through inquiry, openness, and exploration. Start by asking powerful questions<\/strong><\/em> that draw out more information or stretch the other person\u2019s thinking, such as:<\/p>\n Beyond creating mutual understanding about facts, when leaders ask good questions<\/a>, it can help to uncover insights that wouldn\u2019t have come to light otherwise.<\/p>\n A non-directive prompting question like \u201cHow do you want your team to feel when you announce the new initiative?\u201d<\/em> is likely to spark more reflection and lead to greater insights than asking \u201cWhen are you announcing the new initiative?\u201d<\/em> While the latter question might be helpful in getting the person inquiring up to speed, it isn\u2019t particularly powerful and isn\u2019t likely to add any real value for the person answering, as they simply repeat a straightforward fact they already know.<\/p>\n Be sure you set a comfortable tone, maintain eye contact, and give plenty of time for them to think and respond to your questions. Encourage them to express themselves \u2014 without you agreeing or disagreeing.<\/p>\n Shift away from the common and natural tendency to want to problem-solve or give advice. There are times to direct or give answers, but coaching conversations are about the other<\/em> person\u2019s learning \u2014 not<\/em> about your opinion or expertise.<\/p>\n Informed by neuroscience, the real art of conversation is balancing an appropriate mix of challenge and support.<\/strong><\/em> Providing support includes assuring people that they\u2019ve been heard and, especially, that their feelings and values are understood. It provides an important sense of creating psychological safety at work<\/a>, building trust, and encouraging greater honesty and transparency.<\/p>\n When that ratio is right \u2014 and practiced in an authentic rather than formulaic way \u2014 the challenge is received and actually fosters more constructive dialogue, rather than triggering defensiveness.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re able to listen carefully, respond thoughtfully, and resist imposing your own solution, you have the basis of a coaching conversation.<\/p>\n So whether that conversation was a planned coaching session or an impromptu moment, you\u2019ve opened the door to new thinking, new action, and valuable learning.<\/p>\n\n
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When Do Coaching Conversations Happen?<\/h2>\n
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First, Recognize Opportunities for a Coaching Conversation<\/h3>\n
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Remember These 3 Keys<\/h3>\n
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