Throughout my younger years of study I believed that as long as I studied what I enjoyed surely that would give me a job that I enjoyed. It sounds pretty simple doesn’t it….
However, when I graduated I was repeatedly told to “just to get a job”. It wasn’t so much about what job (given the job market about a decade ago) but as long as I got one then I had achieved.
I watched as my graduate year and I hunted through graduate schemes and taking anything we could in order to build our careers and make something of ourselves. I sat year after year with friends in wine bar after wine bar drowning our sorrows with the latest tale of work politics and drama hoping that one day we would make/save enough money to leave our brain numbing, crazy jobs behind.
I desperately moved from working as a wedding planner to organising international conferences. Anything to try and figure out what was the right job for me. It wasn’t easy and I was repeatedly seen as the typical millennial – over-privileged and too big for her boots.
In fact for a brief while I wondered if there was something wrong with me. I questioned if my expectations were too high. Everyone moans about their jobs so is it impossible to have a job that I enjoy? I read books and articles by Steve Jobs, Sheryl Sandberg, Richard Branson and I could read the passion in the text when they spoke of their careers. I wanted that.
I knew deep down I could have that – I just needed to figure out how.
So I scaled back. I thought back to the girl who was picking her A Levels, the girl who chose her subjects based on her love for psychology and performance. The girl who believed she could do a job she loved. Whenever I met with psychologists I was impressed. I used to tell myself I would go back into that area again in the future (when I was older). So that’s what I did. I went back to my psychology roots and found my values again.
I went back into study for a coaching diploma and started my own coaching business where I helped people find passion in their career again. I was overwhelmed by the amount of people who got in touch with me.
People who felt unfulfilled. People who felt lost. People who just didn’t know where to turn and wanted support.
People who, like me, had settled and didn’t want to settle any more.
People who believed they couldn’t change jobs without taking a substantial pay cut (which they couldn’t afford to do).
This year has been life-changing for me and for them. Both of us have changed our belief systems and I can’t believe so many people were (like me) desperately seeking support and answers on how to love their careers.
So why have people spoken out now? Why are things changing?
I personally think that with the increase of social media people are becoming more and more exposed to other people’s lives.
We now can see that more and more people are working from home, more people are demanding the ‘freedom lifestyle’ and people are starting to make their jobs work for them and documenting it.
The so-called corporate ladder is starting to disintegrate as people are starting to run their careers like entrepreneurs. It’s easier now than ever before to apply for a job in any part of the world. There is now an abundance of jobs at the click of our smartphone.
We are also aware that we no longer gain anything from staying in a job that we don’t like. Retirement benefits are no longer a reason to stay, job security is ok but we can easily get a job elsewhere. Job loyalty isn’t like it used to be. People want more from the work place than basic survival.
So how do you know if you are settling? Well let’s see if these sayings below sound familiar?
Doing This Job Means I Can Fulfil My Passions Outside Of Work
If you can arrange your life to feel your spark outside your day job, that’s magnificent and many people will envy you. If your mix of activities — a decent job combined with creative, philanthropic or other pursuits close to your heart — meets all your needs and keeps you sane and healthy, you are way ahead of the game.
Still, many people tell themselves “I hate my job, but I can always do what I love outside of work” and then go home from work and spend the rest of the evening recovering from another gruelling workday, in front of the TV or glued to the computer.
It is easy to delude yourself that you’re going to pursue your real interests when your crazy work schedule lets up, when the kids get bigger or when you catch up on your housework. That’s no way to live!
The only people whose dreams come true are the people who take their dreams as seriously as their day-to-day lives, if not more so. Who has the right to limit your aspirations?
Because Of My Children
Children make a great excuse for any parent who is hesitant to step outside of his or her comfort zone. We can point to the little ones and say “It’s because of them that I don’t follow my dreams.” But can you really look yourself in the eye and say that? Don’t blame your children. You are better than that. Your children shouldn’t be holding you back – they should be propelling you forward. What example do you want to set for them? Be a role model and teach them to go for their goals like you went for yours.
Because I’m Too Old To Make A Change Now
You might be too old to change careers if you are over 95 and signing up to Dignitas. The rest of us can’t use our age as an excuse.
The minute you give yourself permission to try something new, step out of your comfort zone and take a risk to get what you really want, you will have the energy and the confidence to finally say “Why shouldn’t I design the life and career I have always wanted?”
You will realise that “now or never” is not just a saying. You’ll say “I’m getting older – I don’t know how long I have but I can start right now!”
Because I Have So Many Outgoings
Everyone has expenses, bills. Life happens. If your dream inspires you, you’ll figure out how to make it happen. You will get to the place you envision. Most entrepreneurs, for example, change their expense profile dramatically in order to get their new businesses off the ground.
I have had friends who have disappeared from our social life in order to buy a house.
If you need to save or change your budget then do it. A couple of months, maybe even a year of tightening your belts to obtain that dream is a small sacrifice in the grand scheme of things.
Because I Don’t Know What I’m Passionate About
If you don’t know what you’re passionate about, you’ve been handed such opportunity. You get to figure out what your life is about and what you’re meant to be doing. That’s the adventure! Many people chose career paths at a very early age without asking themselves “Will I love this?” They didn’t think that they had to right to follow a path of their own choosing.
Now we know that we have the right, and some would say the obligation, to follow our own path. The way is not always clear. Sometimes we have to reflect and sometimes we just have to ‘try’.
There is no good reason to stay stuck in a job or life that doesn’t grow your passion. We are into our second month of 2017 – let’s make great stuff happen!
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